How Not To Pick Up The Girl

OK Cupid has yet another great data-set about the language used in emails to users and the kind of response it got. My personal favorite line that arrived in my inbox was “Mmmmm…..  me want kitty.” I wish I was joking. Indeed, the number of emails I get each day by people who are just suggesting that one of their body parts would happily interact with one of my body parts is pretty shocking. (And hysterical!)

Do they really think that will work?  Or maybe they think it’s as funny as I do.

But beyond that, I get a surprising number of emails from people who clearly have not read my profile very carefully. The Christian smoker who wants to have more kids, but not premarital sex, comes leaping to mind.

Read this handy article, though, because it correlates pretty well to picking up chicks in the real world too. Honestly, if we think that you just want to fuck us, we’re not likely to go for it – even those of us who are looking for a good fuck. Pay attention, get to know SOMETHING about us, or at least have good questions so that we think you’re interested in us.

As for trying to impress us with bling and fancy cars – if you think we’re that shallow, and that’s okay with you, we don’t want you.

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About Alyssa Royse

Alyssa is freelance writer, speaker and coach living in Seattle with her husband and their 3 daughters. She is the former host of Sexxx Talk Radio on The Progressive Radio Network, co-founder of, a site dedicated to empowered women's sexuality, and an Associate Editor at The Good Men Project. She can also be found on her eponymous blog, where she pontificates about food, family, politics and the Seattle rain. Yes, she almost certainly wants to speak at your event, run a workshop or write something for you. Just ask.

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